Leading with Curiosity in Divided Times: A Call to Curious and Connected Leadership

In today’s complex and divided world, leadership requires more than vision and strategy—it demands heart, humility, and the courage to foster unity amid difference. As Minnesota public school leaders, we stand at the intersection of diverse beliefs, political ideologies, and community values. Within this space of tension and opportunity, our leadership is most essential—not to avoid conflict, but to engage in what author Amanda Ripley calls “good conflict”—the kind that builds understanding rather than barriers.

Walt Whitman offered a timeless reminder:“Be curious, not judgmental.” This is more than a wise phrase—it’s a leadership stance. When we approach others with curiosity instead of judgment, we shift from reacting to engaging. We move beyond defensiveness to genuine dialogue. We ask, “I want to understand your position. Can you help me understand where you’re coming from?” That kind of question opens the door to empathy, mutual respect, and common ground.

Build relationships before you need them—especially with individuals who see the world differently. These early connections create the trust and resilience needed when tensions arise. When we take time to understand someone’s story—what’s in their “backpack”—we are more likely to respond with grace, even in disagreement. When we listen to learn, not to reply, we affirm that every voice matters. And when we choose to stay curious, even in discomfort, we lead with intention and integrity.

Paulo Coelho reminds us: “The world is changed by your example, not your opinion.” How we show up—in challenging conversations, in community forums, in moments of disagreement—matters deeply. Our students and communities are watching. They are learning from our example. Will we be defensive—or open? Dismissive—or curious? Distant—or connected?

Now more than ever, we must:

• Be vulnerable enough to say, “I don’t know” or “Help me understand.”
• Be humble enough to see the humanity in others, even when we disagree.
• Be receptive enough to sit with discomfort and examine our assumptions.
• Be curious enough to wonder what shaped someone’s perspective.

Let’s commit to finding common ground—starting with this truth: that every student deserves opportunity, access, and a sense of belonging. That strong schools are built on strong relationships. And that leadership rooted in curiosity and connection can be a powerful force for unity.

Let us lead with courage.
Listen to learn. Stay curious.
Because the future is watching.

Sources:

• Leading Through Political Change, presentation by Dr. Katy Anthes, Public Education and Business Coalition (PEBC), State Leaders Conference, May 2025.
• Ripley, A. (2021). High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.